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Embracing all facets of emotions within

Sometimes in life it’s good to reflect on the past, not so much to dwell on life’s pain but realize what those emotional experiences and brought us to learn in life and ultimately how it created us.

With today being Sunday I essentially wanted a nice relaxing day before I go ahead and create the busyness that surrounds my life through the week. Decided to take a little trip out to one of my favourite spots to just sit and think about everything.

While a lot of us would never admit to talking to ourselves, I’m pretty sure everyone has at one point or another. That’s what I like to do when I head on up to this spot is talk to myself. And really listen to the words I would love someone else to say to me. But sometimes we don’t get those opportunities, sometimes we have to do it ourselves. And be our own best friend to convey a message that being alone or not having someone to confide in is okay.

That our existences is not dependent on others but upon ourselves, people can listen, but a majority of the time they’re only waiting for their chance to speak or be heard. As much as we like to think people have our best interest, people only serve themselves.

Which is fine, we must accept people and humans as they are not what we would like them to be. But we have that choice, that choice to be the person we wish to be. So we can potentially be the person that serves us great advice if only we listen to our heart. And we can be that person that listens to ourselves. Listen very closely to our every word and how we use those words to express emotion.

I think a lot, I think a lot about what does it mean to be human. What does it mean to truly exist and matter in this world. Why we avoid pain and suffering as if it were a plague to living life. If you ask me feeling & expressing emotion is the most human part of existence. No one likes to be sad or angry all the time but at the same time these emotions should be taught in a manner of how are we able to express them in a constructively and not in a de-constructively.

Happiness is a feeling we get when everything is completely in line, doesn’t mean its perfect but it’s perfect for that moment. Those moments should be cherished with all our heart. Happiness is not an emotion that stays around forever.

But realizing what brings us joy and happiness is needed, wanting less and feeling more joy in our lives and less dependent on things to bring us joy and excitement but being able to express our passion and inspirations that comes from doing what we love and not hating what we are doing so we can love what we can get from it.

Sadness is a feeling that is an array of emotions we feel. When we lose a loved one to just one of life’s series of events we go through this grieving process of realizing we won’t spend another moment with this person & they will be missed greatly. Instead of appreciating those moments we had with them and thanking the universe for bringing them into our lives at the right time and place when we needed them the most.

Sadness is something that we also feel when things just aren’t right in the world, such as don’t have a house or life turned out the way that it did. When we should be celebrating the simple things in life and not feel sad about what we don’t have but learn to appreciated and show gratitude to what we do have.

Angry is a fiery emotion it has the ability to be a powerful tool to use to get us to the next level in life. With anger we can use the revenge side of anger to creating something new from the ashes that anger brings into our lives.

Anger and being upset only shows how passionate and caring you might be over something as well. But again we have to use that anger constructively. We can’t let anger get the better of us and consume our lives.

All of these emotions equal up to one thing, building upon the human experience, to negotiate one with out the other is a travesty. Those who come from a background where everything is given to them will not know the power of struggle.

Those where love comes easy will not know the power of being alone or the power of fighting for something/someone they love!

Those that have the gift of money handed to them to do what ever they wish will never know what it’s like to earn and live from what they have in life and utilize that resourcefulness to create something that is valuable beyond measure.

People who are gifted at public speaking will never ever know the triumph of over coming their fear to create push and motivate someone with their words when they themselves have struggled in the past with it.

Emotion and personal struggles is what shapes the human experience, to live a life with out emotions is like feeling thirsty without having a liquid to drink in front of us.

We must follow our hearts where ever it might lead us even if it’s down a dark and scary place because of the fear of the unknown. We must then embrace the mysteries of living life to it’s fullest without hesitation. We must be sure of ourselves and what we are capable of by continuing to put us in harms way and not be afraid of pain or sadness or feeling angry and upset about something but to meet the challenges of how we handle our emotions and use it to full potential to sling shot our way to the place where we fear nothing.

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If you’re going to live today might as well live it the way you want to!

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Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment. – Jim Rohn

Yesterday I really took the day off, I really didn’t do anything at all except for watching movies
to get me inspired and engage in my imagination.

I believe we need those days, perhaps one or even two a week to really recoup the energy lost through
the course of the week. I feel no shame in saying I was completely lazy, it was well worth it!
When I finally snapped out of my laziness it was relatively late at night probably close to 2 or 3am in the morning
but when I get energized I rekindle my motivation.

So I drove to the local coffee shop where I frequent at night and began pouring my heart out into my writing
like it was no-bodies business.

I’m writing this post around 2pm now, and, I’m still killing it like a boss! I worked a little backwards by writing a little bit of the novel and a couple other things I was working on but I really wanted to put my tasks on paper. So I made myself a to-do list to help focus and really physically cross off each task one by one.

It’s amazing feeling to overcome the nasty habits that being creative has sometimes. We become so involved with relatively mundane things like checking Facebook and Twitter every two seconds to see what other peoples lives are up to when really we should be focusing on our life and making it one Epic Story to be told!

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Creative Minds Vlog – Companion video to turning 30

I create vlogs about my life, as part of my creative endeavours,
so here is the latest one I created yesterday about
the whole idea of turning thirty.

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April 10, 2013 · 9:20 am

The 30 Something kind of life

It is April 7th just a few days after my 30th birthday, 5am as I am writing this blog post trying to make sense of my no-none sense lifestyle how thought provoking!

On my birthday I decided to try and not make a big deal out of it, I don’t throw myself
parties to make myself feel happy that people want to spend time with me. And because it is a mile stone it’s something I feel I wanted to ease into and not throw a huge bash over.

I did however spend my day with a few people I have come to know and trust now and absolutely adore and that was as much celebrating I could ask for. I held off until Thursday from going out for a birthday drink, I had still lots to do and for the most part drinking sucks the energy right out of me. But none the less I did have a good experience with a couple people on Thursday to help me celebrate it in the fashion of a drink.

So, what is the point of all of this, truth of the matter is… I don’t have a clue anymore. I don’t want to say that the minute I turned 30 and all of a sudden nothing made sense to me because truthfully I’ve felt like this a majority of my life. Being 30 only makes you realize that chances are, half of your life is done, depending on if you live to be 60 or 80.

I want to say I have a really good job I enjoy and I’m happy with everything that I do, but again truthfully I am not. Then begs the question, what is the point of all of this? Again, I have not a clue. I think about risk all the time, what are the risk of doing this or that. Risk and fear a lot now, even though I know it’s not something I should focus on.

But I remember when I first tried to learn how to drive a car, my mother and I were heading to church and she asked me If I wanted to drive the car in. After failing my written test 4 or 5 times but finally nailed it, I figured it might be beneficial that I tried. The experience was awful, I wasn’t use to navigating the wheel at all. So much so, somehow I managed to just drive myself into a completely different lane.

Needless to say having the over protective mom in the car she started screaming at me making me even MORE nervous. I pulled the car over, and she drove the rest of the way. I did not touch the car after that for close to 2 or 3 years.

I look back now, and, I was thinking about this earlier as I am driving in and out of traffic and drove for the last like 5 years probably that fear is the enemy of life. We fear so many things as a society. The entire idea of not being normal and not being accepted we fear.

My greatest fear right now is that I am not able to be what I was born to be, that I would give into this ‘Normal’ Society to work at a job that doesn’t bring me any passion to my life but only pays the bills. I want a life that when I look back on that people will feel inspired by the things I’ve accomplished in such a short a matter of time.

I want the next few months to really take fear and throw it out the window, just like driving and get right back into the swing of things, I may never be perfect at life. But I don’t have to be I just want to get on that road, my road.

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The importance of Goal Setting

1. Gives Clarity On Your End Vision
As the opening quote by Bill Copeland put it across very adeptly, if you don’t have a goal in life, you are spending your life running around and not achieving anything for yourself. You get the illusion that you are doing a lot of things, but they aren’t what you want. You are just busy fulfilling everyone’s goals. It can be the fast food industry enjoying your patronage because you’re lovin’ it, multi-billion dollar consumer goods companies securing your purchase because they convinced you that their haircare products with 76% frizz reduction is something you need, fashion houses getting you to buy their clothes because it makes you look cool, or you working in a job you don’t love because it is safe, secure and rakes in the dough.
How are you supposed to manifest what you want if you don’t even set concrete goals? How do you supposed to achieve your dreams and visions if you don’t clearly spell out the end output you desire?
Setting your goals gives you clarity on what you ultimately want. It makes you crystallize and articulate the desires floating in your mind. It ensures that you are channeling your time, energy and efforts into things that really matter to you. It makes you live more consciously.
Everything in this world is created twice: First – creation in your mind, followed by the manifestation in reality. Without the mental creation, there will be no physical creation. When you set a goal, you already accomplish the first creation. You have set into motion a decree for yourself and the forces of your universe to materialize the goal in the physical reality.

2. Drives You Forward
Your goals are a representation of your inner desires; desires which motivate you in life. The point when you set goals marks one the points when you are most connected with your source of motivation. It is when your motivation is at its peak. Having goals at your side serve as constant reminders of your motivational sources. They are the fuel which drive you forward and keep you going when the going gets tough.
If I ever experience moments where I lose motivation, I get into meditation mode and focus on some of my most important goals in life, including the goal to turn my personal development business into a full-time career. I will visualize the scenario with full mental clarity, as if it is happening in the now. When I do that, it’s like a clear connection is formed with my inner desires. The motivational energy suddenly surges through very readily and I channel this energy into my daily life and actions.

3. Gives You Laser Focus
Goals give you a single focal point to place your attention in. Whereas your purpose gives you a broad, directional focus to move your life in, goals gives you laser focus on what exactly to spend your time and energy on. Think of your time, energy and efforts as input, and results as the output. A goal acts as your funnel which guides and channels those inputs effectively into your desired output.
When you don’t have goals, you are floating around every day. Your energy is randomly dispersed in ad-hoc activities which you engage on whimsical basis. These are activities that play no role in your larger scope of life, but you are not aware of because you are just living life as it is. You end up mislabeling a lot of ‘nice-to-do’ activities as important. You might also be engaging in these ‘nice-to-do’ activities because you can’t think of a better way to spend your time. Do you find yourself surfing and chatting excessively? Busy running errands? Play a lot of games? Spend the bulk of your time being a workaholic? Spend the remaining time lazing and/or partying away? What’s your objective for doing them? What end output does it lead to? Is that the top priority in your life?
You may have a broad idea of what you want to do. But until you clearly articulate it out as specific goals, you are not channeling your efforts properly. You will often find yourself getting sidetracked because you don’t have goals to rein you in. It’s really quite easy to get swept away by the currents of everyday life, simply because there are so many stimulus out there in our environment. You may get the general overall impression that you are moving in the direction, but it is just an illusion that you are having. With no goals, you have no focus. Without this focus, your input is strewn around randomly to give you garbage output. That is, if you even get any semblance of an output at all.

4. Makes You Accountable
Having goals makes you accountable. Rather than just talking about what you want all the time and not do anything concrete about them, you are now obligated to take action. Setting a specific goal gives you clarity on whether you are living up against what you committed yourself to do when you first set your goal.
This accountability is accountability to yourself, not anyone else. This accountability is what you hold up to when you choose the healthy salad over that piece of fried chicken. It is what you answer to when you spent that hour working on your report rather than random web surfing. When you stay accountable toward your goals, you are in fact staying true to your desires (see point 1 above).
For my blog, one of the goals I set is the number of articles which I want to write every week. When I set such targets in place, I become accountable toward delivering against it. If I find myself falling short, I will take the necessary actions to turn the situation around. I examine how I have been spending my time and start prioritizing across my daily tasks. I cut out the Quadrant 4 tasks (time wasters) or activities that bear little to no relation to my goals. From this, I have reduced considerable time on my biggest time wasters, including chatting, random web surfing, constantly checking my mail/web stats, certain outings which are not as important compared to my writing goal.

5. Be The Best You Can Be
Goals help you achieve your highest potential. Without goals, you subject yourself to the natural, default set of actions that keep you feel safe and comfortable every day. But this familiarity is the nemesis of growth. It prevents you from growing. It does not enable you to become the best person you can be. It denies you from tapping into all that potential inside of you.
By setting goals, you set targets to strive against. These targets make you venture into new places, new contexts, new situations which puts you into growth mode. They make you stretch beyond your normal self and reach new heights. For example, setting a time limit for your run lets you know if you should be running faster. Setting a weight loss target makes you aware if your actions have been effective in losing weight. Setting a career goal ensures you are not settling for anything less than what you desire.
In my goal achievement processes, I have found myself constantly bursting through new grounds and uncovering potential which I did not know existed before. Without those goals, I would be taking the path of least resistance, just doing things within their natural constraints. Goals have made me face and overcome countless barriers to get to what’s on the other side. It has made me much more self aware and learn a lot more things about both myself and life, compared to if I did not have those goals.

6. Live Your Best Life
Goals ensure you get the best out of life, for two reasons.
Firstly, by becoming a better person, your new found knowledge and abilities let you experience more out of the same life events compared to the previous you. Think about how your worldview is different now vs the you 10 years ago. Do you see life with much more clarity, depth and perspective today than you were in the past? What may be a simple daily occurrence in the past holds a lot more meaning to the more highly evolved you today.
Secondly, time passes in our life, whether we want to or not. Goals with specific measures and deadlines ensure we are maximizing our output and experiences during our time here. If you have already discovered your life purpose, your goals will ensure you get the best out of your purpose.
Imagine you are driving a car. When you identify your purpose, you get clarity on the direction to travel in. However, without specifying an exact destination and time frame, there is no yardstick to benchmark your progress against. It wouldn’t make a difference whether you are whizzing at an amazing 140km/hour or a paltry 10km/hour since you never set a target. Goals ensure you are maximizing your life for all that it can offer you.

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February 21, 2013 · 1:54 pm

The Beginning of a New

“Although no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.” ― Carl Bard

After graduation, I was already working some place, it felt good to be able to start working full-Time somewhere. It was exciting that I had some place to go, and I did excellent work there. I was working there for about two and just shy of 2 months I believe. The business was struggling, but I was able to keep myself a vital part of their business. I wasn’t just an editor but I was able to bring in their social media, I also created and worked on some web site designs. And because I owned my own camera I’d go on shoots for them.

At the end of the two years, not even all my skills, they were no longer able to keep me on as an employee. I took it very, very hard, I never really been let go from a job before in that same nature before. It was there where I knew that I had to make a choice, leave my fate in someone else’s hand or make something of my own and be in charge of my own destiny. Some people are perfectly fine letting someone control their lives, they wake up, they go to work, they have one task they must do or a few different tasks, they come home, they vent about how their day went. They sleep and the cycle starts all over for them.

I don’t want to ever live my life that way ever again, so, I took this ending as my new beginning that I would really start focusing on building something for myself so I wouldn’t have to rely on another person again, if I fail, I fail because of me and not the decisions of others were not in the best interest of it’s employees. I began taking stock of my talents, I’m an avid writer, I enjoy painting, very Tech and Social Media savvy, I have an amazing eye in terms of Photography and I enjoy the art of weaving a powerful story and using music for emotional set up.

All my skills could be transferable into different avenues but I really wanted to do something completely unique to my personality. Remember how I said in a previous blog, I take a simple task or assignment and I find ways to do something completely different to make it my own? Well, such is my life, not very much interested in going the same route anymore, hasn’t worked for me in the past and I need to do something completely different and very much my own.

Thus is why way back in February of last year I began writing a novel, I worked on it off and on when ever I had free time or could get myself into the mode of sitting down to write, my writing style is hand written first then I’ll go back and type all my notes out. Can be a bit more time consuming but you end up automatically creating the second draft as you type it. So that is where I am at right now. Have you ever been in a similar position? had to change your path or try something unique and different? I’d love to hear your experiences with that, so feel free to leave a comment down below!

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