“We don’t always need advice. Sometimes all we need is a hand to hold, an ear to listen, and a heart to understand.” via Marc & Angel
Relationships have been on my mind for a number of months now, it wasn’t until one of my favourite female bloggers came out with, “Addressing the Divorced Elephant in the Room” that I felt compelled to do so. This blog entry came from Team Liz & Kit. I enjoy their style of blogging because they really have opposite lifestyles at the moment. They have interesting female perspectives on a lot of different topics. So definitely check out their blog… after you read mine of course 😉
I thought I would dig deep for this one or at least as deep as I care to divulge. Relationships or should I say dating, to me is a cruel unusual form of punishment these days. I don’t think dating in itself is cruel, I think technology has really done something to society that takes the personal out of being personally responsible.
One would only hope that if you were dating someone that they would not, could not, end a relationship like this…
But apparently this is becoming part of how we treat and deal with individuals on a daily basis. And for some reason I’ve grown to be disappointed by all of this, perhaps because I’m very attached and open to all aspects of my emotions. A tad bit old fashion. After all I do believe in opening a door for a lady, sending flowers, and writing poetry about how much seeing a certain look in their eyes lights up my world and when females smile, in this, child like way. Well it just makes me want to melt.
Technology was meant to improve the way that we live, but, should not be how we address our personal responsibility to one another. Out of mutual respect towards each others feelings. Regardless of the fact that perhaps there is no respect, there should be at least common decency. It seems like we’ve openly become this society that avoids pain and hurt like the plague. Which is all well and good, but really, it only serves your purpose and not the other. This type of selfish act, depending upon how attached the other person is to the relationship is, takes away the necessary steps to actually cope with a relationship gone wrong. It leaves them empty inside, struggling and looking for answers in all hours of the night and using “Wiki-Help” and their fabulous & insightful cartoon depiction to get over someone. Which by the way, I for one believe that is a slap in the face of human emotions.
So with all of this in mind, dating, relationships have become so strange to me. I love, the ideal relationship, the kind you only find in romantic comedies. Or if you went to any old age home and you asked your grandparents how they met the love of their life. But these days I find those stories to be to far and in-between. Not to say they don’t still exist, but it seems like you have to go through a couple mini long term relationships just to find the “one”. And thats heart breaking, and what is even more heart breaking to me is I don’t have the high school sweet heart story, or college love story, to tell my future kids about. Those are the relationship stories that have so much hope and filled with history.
The only stories we have is, “I tried e-harmony because I was too busy to have a personal social interaction with someone, so I had to do an impersonal match with someone on another screen instead of finding out about the person the old fashion way of asking questions and getting to know them personally” … Too long? Perhaps.
Again just another way technology doomed us all, and in another few years, we won’t have to use a site to find a match you’ll just be matched at birth like some other countries have been accustomed to.
I am not 100 percent sure where dating & relationships will go in the near future, all I could say is I hope it has some retro feeling to it. It’s difficult, people are so judgemental and make a decision based upon what they see and not what they feel. And what they feel is something that grows over time. But our time is so precious and busy we don’t really appreciate those moments that make time stand still, the moments our parents felt probably every second they were together.
I hope I am wrong, and if your single & reading this, I hope you discover your storybook love story in a way that best represents what you want.
Perhaps the true conclusion to draw from “A true love story never ends” is simply it never ends and never really has a beginning either, we merely go through experiences during the course of our lives to find out what truly matters to us the most. Mutual love, respect, honesty, loyalty & always infinite in both receiving and giving. And it doesn’t matter how long it takes, how many different ways you do it, or how you get there. What matters the most is that you’re there. And at that moment you too will receive the kind of love story only shared in movies regardless of age, demographic, or circumstances.
So, What do you think about relationships and dating these days? Leave a comment!
Be well to one another, and as always, Be Legendary.